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Monday, November 30, 2009

User post: Do Men Think Women Love To Clean?

The kids are gone for two weeks and tomorrow hubby and I are off to the beach for ten days! Ten days of silent bliss. I am very excited.

I wrote previously on my children's sad departure as they pulled from the driveway this past weekend. I have cried my last cry and am enjoying the alone time with myself and my hubby. I have gotten chores done around the house that would never have been attempted if the children were around. I mean you can't trash toys that are literally junk around kids. Even if it's a Barbie car with one wheel, if you make a slight suggestion that maybe it's on it's last leg and should be tossed in the garbage, an excuse will be found on why it must remain in the toy box. "But Aunt BeBe gave it to us before she died," or "But it's Dottie's favorite." Speaking of Dottie, she's a stuffed deer. It's impossible to rid your home of old toys when children are around to see.

We head out tomorrow for my husband's father's beach house. We have stayed there multiple times before. As always, the only request about the house is when you leave, leave it the way it was.

Earlier my husband met his father for the keys and helped him run an errand. Well, it seems as if someone hadn't left the house in tip top shape and now we have been given handwritten instructions on how to leave it this time. I'm fine with this but the funny thing was, when hubby returned home, he handed me the list. (I know he did it not even thinking about what I may read into it.)

Why, oh why do men think women love to clean up? Is there a sign above women's head that say, "Let Me Clean For You"? I wonder why the list was mine for the holding?

Do men really think we pray for instructions on what to clean next? Is this sexist to think this way or just natural?
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  • Aeris's Avatar
    Posted by Aeris Mon Jul 6, 2009 6:26am PDT

    My hunny (a man) does much of the cleaning... I cook, he does the dishes. I clean the bathrooms, he vacuums and takes out the trash. Most of the time he even does the laundry. In return, he gets spoiled in... other ways :) :) :)

    But anyway, I have noticed that guys respond (generally here, so take it with a grain of salt) better to positive reinforcement. When I tell my guy what a GREAT job he does with the dishes (and thank him EVERY TIME), and how much EASIER he makes my day by helping out, and how much BETTER he is at doing certain things, etc, he seems even more motivated to help. Your relationship pattern may already be set, but maybe you could give that a try! :D

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  • sav_man's Avatar
    Posted by sav_man Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:05am PDT

    I think some women loves to clean. It's good to keep the house clean expecially with the bathroom. I'd recently moved in with this girl and her roomate. I shared the bathroom with one of the girl and have never seen such a dirty bathroom before. I walked in barefoot one time and felt like it needed to be disinfected and scrubbed down. Overall I always thought that all women likes to be clean and keep there house clean until recently.

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  • Zhanna's Avatar
    Posted by Zhanna Mon Jul 6, 2009 8:06am PDT

    Hey Dubs what the hell are you rambling about. There are no issues except someone saying that men think women like to clean. There was nothing wrong with the errand or jealousy of her husband going somewhere with the father. Next time before you give useless advice read the actual story. You were way out of context and I hope people don't listen to your nonsense.

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  • Ester's Avatar
    Posted by Ester Mon Jul 6, 2009 2:31pm PDT

    you should go to a resort where you dont have to think about who is going to clean.now thats a vacation.

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  • toughy's Avatar
    Posted by toughy Fri Jul 17, 2009 6:37pm PDT

    I've long been convinced it is a genetic defect that makes males assume that

    women are just DYING for the chance to cook a 6-course dinner while the

    wash machine is cleaning a load of clothes for us to iron after we have

    washed the dinner dishes and taken out the trash. This is after having

    worked at least 8 hours and made a large financial contribution to the

    family.

    My late husband used to really warm my heart when, after doing all the

    above would announce -- from his easy chair -- "you CAN bring me some

    ice cream ( or soda, or sandwich, etc. ) My response would be "don't be

    so damned generous -- you CAN take a hike"

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