User post: Do Men Think Women Love To Clean?

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  Posted by KittyKat Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:09am PDT

  that is something I have yet to figure out. It gets frustrated having every little mistake pointed out to you. So one day I forget to mop. the world will not end because I forgot. So I missed a spot sweeping.

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  Posted by None Wed Jul 1, 2009 5:22am PDT

  Pretty much, BUT it is YOUR FAULT, you have enable this behavior, if early in your relationship, you said I believe in 50/50, you also have a responsibility to do chores if we both work, that wouldn't of happened, I will NOT tolerate a man who wants me to be his mom and clean up after himself, that is plain out sexist and selfish. Yup great advice from "Mint" do that, just STOP doing it, but believe it, men actually like to live like piggies, so that could backfire, and if you have kids, hello, why aren't you teaching responsibility, I was washing dishes at 8 years old, did my own laundry at 10. In the end, it has nothing to do with if you are a man or woman, learning to do things for yourself like cooking, cleaning, etc is for your OWN good for when you are an adult and don't have mommy around, yet I take that back, I know some old guys still living at home and mom cooks and cleans and gives money still. You choose that life. Good Luck.

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  Posted by Lin Wed Jul 1, 2009 5:55am PDT

  I have more interest in having a neat and tidy house than my ex-husband did. Now that he has moved out, there isn't nearly as much mess to clean. Dividing the chores makes a lot of sense to me and then don't criticize each other about how those chores are completed. When things were better between us he did his own laundry and the mutual towels. I cleaned the house and he took care of the outside chores.

  So set your limits and talk it over.

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  Posted by Alicia Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:35am PDT

  Really, do you want your husband to clean anything? They always do a crappy job and we women just have to do it over again. Women are good at cleaning because they are awesome at details.

  It sounds from your article that you're not really pissed off about the whole handing-it-to-you thing, you're more pissed about the cleaning at all.

  That being said, I don't know whether you left it a mess last time you were there or maybe your father-in-law's just a micromanager, but having a LIST of things to do is ridiculous (and TACKY). Bad move on Dad's part. He coulda just said, "Hey, last time you left the kitchen a mess, could you make sure to clean it before you leave?"

  That ALSO being said, when we go off somewhere, before we leave I give the friend's or relative's house a good scrub-down. Not only do I want to be polite, I have been heartily invited back several times.

  Bottom line: One should automatically return another's belongings (even a house) in better shape than it came to them. It's just neighborly.

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  Posted by opiniononly Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:50am PDT

  Oh Alicia: Not all women are "Good at cleaning because we are good at details" and not all men do a crappy job cleaning. My SO does a great job cleaning our home and I never have to re-clean anything he does. Please, don't make such sweeping generalizations.

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  Posted by Redvioletskydancer Wed Jul 1, 2009 7:27am PDT

  Apple, Big congratulations on your position for the Gazette. I'm glad you have some alone time for your husband and you to enjoy each other. A beach house sounds like a blast! Men always assume we should clean, "where are my dishes, shirt, towels, tools etc." I hate cleaning but love my man.

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  Posted by Rebecca Wed Jul 1, 2009 8:01am PDT

  Okay, now I could totally be way out in left field with this comment but I'm going to give it a shot anyway. Did you think that maybe, for even one second, that he was handing the list to you so you could see it too?! *gasp!* Maybe he was putting aside the evil machinations of sexist pig-men for a few seconds to treat you, the toiling, slaving little woman, like a human being and let you read the list for yourself instead of deciding that you are just too stupid to read even a list of cleaning instructions therefore forcing him to read it to you. OMG! What is the world coming to!? But, I could be wrong.

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  Posted by Tamara Wed Jul 1, 2009 8:31am PDT

  None - I love your comments! You hit the nail on the head "Sexist & Selfish"

  Apple - Don't be fooled for one second that these men can not bend their a**'s over and clean something like it is too difficult for them or they don't know where the cleaning supplies are. He has YOU trained! He knows very well that if he acts stupid enough you will just do it for him. That is just one thing I can not stand - if you are in a relationship and everything is 50/50 then that means so is the yard work - laundry - house work - grocery shopping - EVERYTHING!!

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  Posted by Mysterious Gryphon Wed Jul 1, 2009 9:56am PDT

  With my partner, or anyone else I have lived with, my perspective is that this is what I consider to be "clean." If you don't like it, then you are free to make it into your idea of "clean."

  Mind you, I do not live in a pile of my own filth, but nor do I freak out if there's a pile of (clean) laundry sitting unfolded on the couch, or a stack of books and papers in the middle of the living room floor. Or a few dirty dishes in the sink. If you don't like it, feel free to fix it! Otherwise, don't complain.

  ONE CAVEAT: If I am borrowing another person's home, I always, always leave it the way I found it. This does mean that I am obliged to scrub the toilet after an overnight visit, but rather that I move furniture back where it was when I arrived and wipe up coffee cup circles on the countertop. That's called being a good guest.

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  Posted by VK Wed Jul 1, 2009 10:36am PDT

  My husband also thinks it is the womens job. We do not have any kids. But he is like " i dont like to clean". But he likes clean dishes, towles, and a clean bed to sleep in . I also cook all the meals. I work full time and so does he. I care more than he does. I get so mad sometimes at him because he dosent care and rather do something else besides help me.

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