User post: Do Men Think Women Love To Clean?

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  Posted by Brandi-YOU GROW GIRL! Tue Jun 30, 2009 3:24pm PDT

  Dunno why but my husband is the same way. I guess maybe it's because we care more? I mean if I didn't clean our house just wouldn't get cleaned and my husband would be just fine with that. He doesn't even notice his messy ways until I point them out...(nicely of course!)

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  Posted by Cajun Chicka Tue Jun 30, 2009 5:30pm PDT

  I've noticed in most relationships that the woman does tend to do the "cleaning" But to give men their props, some do help out.

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  Posted by paperpush Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:16pm PDT

  sounds like your husband's pretty sexist if he wouldn't even think twice about how it might make you feel to be handed a list of chores as if you were a child. there's nothing "natural" about men assuming women like to clean. i also think that your characterization is generous...most likely they don't think we enjoy it, but think that we ought to clean, that this is our role and our rightful job. don't take this kind of thing lying down. you should at least be able to talk to your husband about how this made you feel, aka, rightfully pissed off.

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  Posted by Theresa Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:28pm PDT

  yeah, some do. I only like a clean house, so that's why I end up doing it all the time.

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  Posted by Jett Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:09pm PDT

  My husband asked me once why I like to clean so much. I said I don't. It's just that if I don't do it, no one will.

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  Posted by Dubs Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:12pm PDT

  Generalizations are bad mmmkay? It would be like me saying "Do women just naturally complain about men?" I think this scenario is a bit one-sided as into the other details that you may have left out but understand the frustration.

  1) What was the errand that your husband was running to do for his father? Was it actually an errand? If it wasn't and errand then I can totally understand your perspective; however, since you say he was running and ERRAND and he handed you a list of ERRANDS....do you simply cross examine the semantics of multiple responsibilities vs difficulty of said errand?

  2) Are you sure that you don't have such serious issues with your husband's father? I mean you are using HIS PROPERTY after all and quite frankly if I was the OWNER of the property I would dictate how people use MY PROPERTY considering I let people stay there.....BUT...I would be understanding of time tables on who originally left the mess and who came upon it to clean it up..thus....leading to...

  3) Who the hell was in the property before you and your husband? If was his father then....don't lift a damn finger. Your husband's father can clean it himself. Again you are not a maid.

  4) Was the property hit by a typhoon IE a disaster zone or are we just talking about a bunch of dirty dishes?

  In summary I think you are right it is inconsiderate of your husband to just hand you a list but you are simultaneously reading into it waaay to much because it's obvious you are a bit jealous of your husband's relationship with his father because his father seems to monopolize of lot of your husband's time.

  The two of you need to have a serious talk or maybe even try some counseling because if you are resorting to using generalizations to tack this behavior onto men in general then...well...that's pretty much sexist in itself. Can't really counter sexism with sexism hun. ;) The cycle has to be broken somewhere.

  Being inconsiderate isn't gender specific behavior, however, venting is understandable. Again as I posted on another one of your blogs...would this story still be the same if your husband participated in the discussion?

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  On another tangent.....people have different definitions of what CLEAN is. Also, methodology always seems to be a pivotal factor with the "I want it cleaned MY WAY according to MY standards." So sometimes this communication issue gets in the way when people actually try to meet others standards.

  There's a difference between accommodation, collaboration and compromise. You have to find what works for you because obviously at this moment it seems being accommodating to your husband and his father has run its course. Time for a new strategy.

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  Posted by Jon Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:24pm PDT

  We just don't want to clean or must of us. I would rather go out front and mow the yard, change the oil in the cars and chop up some wood then do the dishes. Every couple has this all worked out and if not trouble is imminent. But if you guys are married and have kids you guys should of had all of this worked out... Most women like complaining and finding some kind of conflict although most men like being lazy.. Just smoke a dubie together and everything will be peachy :)

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  Posted by JoKTM Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:51pm PDT

  My husband cleans around the house more than I do. Honey he makes you do cause you will. My husband has to ask me cause I hate to do it and he know.

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  Posted by Mint E Tue Jun 30, 2009 10:53pm PDT

  My aunt went on strike.She was working almost full time and doing all the chores with no help from her husband. Only a little from the kids and no one else knows how to cook. Her husband said something along the lines that she doesn't do anything. So she decided to quit doing everything in the house. :D

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  Posted by freedom Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:54pm PDT

  It used to piss me off when my ex would say "your a woman you should like to clean" The nerve!!

  In your case I really think that your just looking for a reason to B*tch it pretty obvious that you do most of the cleaning in your house. You said when the kids left YOU had time to clean. So if cleaning is one (of many I'm sure) your resp. at home, ofcourse your husband is going to hand you the list for the out of town chores and not think twice about it. Listen your out of town no kids, no work, make it sexy wash the dishes naked or sumthing or for every chore he completes you do something for him he will have spit shined the whole house and not even realized it LOL!!! :)

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