The dreaded question....what does a guy want to know when he asks........

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  Posted by urassismine2 Fri Oct 30, 2009 4:35pm PDT

  We want to know if you are a nice person. We are busy looking at you from angles, on the sly, but we want to see, visually, what you look like as well. Its not a quick glance thing like women can get away with. We need to absorb your image. What your saying, yeahhhh,..its bouncing against our frontal lobe, but we need a stsarting place from which to start moving our eyes, while we smile an listen,..some. Being that this is just the beginning of coming in contact with you, we have our own issues of nervousness, as well. Even it we don't show it, we are just as aprehensive, about this early part of getting to know you,..as you are. Some guys hide it better than other men. The "do you date much" question, to a guy, is just a signal that he doesn't want to hit on a sore point related to something really personal, from jump street. He's trying to create space for you to talk, expand upon your life, tell him everything about what makes life liveable for your sanity, and give him time to find a connective thread to be able to chime back in with. Hence, the start of a conversation without a loss of momentum,..an your probably smiling nicely by now,..an low an behold...here come the drinks...:)..just a start to something..

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  Posted by Dante Sat Oct 31, 2009 1:01am PDT

  Well we're just looking to see if can continue our conversation with you. Given us a chance to get to know little bit more. We would like to see you in a different light and vice verse after a long day of work really who looks their best. The first date sets the tone to the music and the night. If the question bother you then you should let him know right off back how you feel. A real man wouldn't take you speaking your mind or expressing your feelings as an insult he would listen then he would let you know about his intension.

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  Posted by Dickson Sat Oct 31, 2009 1:51am PDT

  hi,am 24 years and am Zambian.have done my secondary education,mine while am helping my friend at a caffe.later on would like to do more about my educatiom.would love some one i would be communicating to and exchanging gift and othher beautiful things arround.friends are there to cherish and not to be dispised hoping to here from you too God bless you.

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  Posted by Tom Wed Nov 4, 2009 9:16pm PST

  I don't really understand why that is a deadly question. I think women read more into it then what we are thinking. Its more or less just conversation to find out things about you. if you don't date a lot we may ask you questions more about your work or homelife. If you say yes, we can find out more about your tastes and dislikes as people always have date stories. It's been my opinion that woman are reading more between the lines than what is really there. I think a lot of that is how we socialize from a young age. Females have more complicated relationships and their words can have a lot of twists and turns and hence a lot of analyzing is necessary because of the complicated nature. men not so much.

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  Posted by Mark Christoff Thu Nov 5, 2009 1:25am PST

  Aw 1 thing is for sure, the guy's style is weak..... He's just playing around, just let him be, Like what I always tell to my friends, Find a guy whom you don't love that much but a guy whom will love you more than anything else..

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