I was divorced two years ago after a tumultuous 23 year relationship. At first I really enjoyed being alone and having a peaceful place to call my own; however, being alone now is just starting to feel lonely. I don't miss the ex or anything along those lines, but, coming home to an empty house is getting old. My cat can only do so much to entertain me. :) I am dating someone now, but we live about 80 miles apart, so we only spend weekends together. That will not be changing anytime in the near future due to personal issues in his family.
Here's my question: Is it truly possible to live alone and be perfectly content, whether you are dating someone or not? I've been reading tons of articles about finding yourself, being happy with who you are, etc. etc. and that this is real key to personal happiness.
I would like to hear from women who have achieved a blissful (or somewhat peaceful) existence all by themselves. and are content to stay thay way. I would also like to hear from the other side; the women who know they are never going to be truly happy being alone and what steps they are taking to be at peace with themselves.
Thanks !
Living alone after 40. Do you really like it ? What are you doing about it if you don't?
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Posted by Wed Sep 10, 2008 11:58am PDT
Report AbuseRead Eat, Pray, Love by Liz Gilbert, if you haven't already...i think if you love yourself enough it is possible to live a happy life alone...but so mamy of us women don't know how to LOVE OURSELVES! To be our own best friends,and to be okay with just being ok sometimes...know what I mean?
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Posted by Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:41pm PST
Report AbuseI read eat, prey, love and it did nothing for me. I am 41 and have given up on finding a soul mate.
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Posted by Tue Dec 9, 2008 6:38pm PST
Report Abuseyou need to shut up none. just because your happy alone don't mean nothing ppl aren't all the same.
just as your happy being by yourself others need a mate to be happy your not the damn mold for everyone!
anyway Rowdygirl to have made it threw 23 years with someone you have to be a wonderful woman you have all my respect.
i myself can give a little info on living alone even tho i'm a man:P
i have been alone for over ten years and at times i feel happy by myself like i don't ever want anyone and at other times i feel so lonely i could die.
but i wasn't as lucky to meet such a wonderful woman as you, i met the worst evil vilest women and got put threw hell.
anyway i've been to scared to get with someone after that last girl and don't know if i ever want to again:P
but all you can do is talk to friends do things see movies eat great food these things will pull you threw.
but i hope this guy works out for you:)
and your the strong one it takes alot to make something last like you did, it alot easier to give up like me and none
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Posted by Wed May 13, 2009 6:16pm PDT
Report AbuseWell I would never agree that living alone is going to be a happy and contented phase of life. I have been alone for the past 41 years literally as my marriage lasted only few months..so its kind of irrelevant! I am now 41 and I have given up on my search for a life partner. As time goes by the choices have become lesser and more harder to find someone compatible and likable. Living alone is a torture as age progresses. The people who talk about being happy & content, rather accept their status as it is and try to find happiness. Guess thats the only choice if we cannot rewrite our destiny...
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