Is more sex the key to a successful marriage?

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  Posted by Giggles Tue Nov 25, 2008 12:07pm PST

  As I have said many times... the jury is still out on that one. No, honestly, I think it will help, but sex will not erease all the stresses that married couples have. But it is good advice for helping to get closer to your partner.

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  Posted by Blue Tue Nov 25, 2008 12:35pm PST

  Didn't someone else already post a blog on this???

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  Posted by Marcia Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:13pm PST

  I totally agree because if you vowed to spend the rest of your life with this person you should give your soul to them often. Not like you would give your higher power, but even in the bible it says once you marry you tend to your husband/wife so I think it is a wonderful suggestion if you don't give someone else is always willing too!!

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  Posted by DeAnn Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:16pm PST

  I've found that doing it when one of us doesn't feel like it only benefits the one who wanted to, and builds resentment in the other. On the other hand, when there is reluctance, and we take the time to find out what barriers are present and work through them (assuming it's not "I've been up since 5, it's 11, I'm exhausted, and have to get up in 6 hrs"), it often brings us closer.

  I read another blog post on instructions for victorian women to abhor sex so much they should try NOT to have it with their husbands. I think that's sad. I think you should both try to get what you want. Happy couples do it more often, and thus it helps them be happier. If you're not doing it very often, there might be a reason why. The key is that when those reasons are valid (being too tired, for example), letting that be okay. It's understanding and giving to benefit the other that is important, not keeping a tally on how often you have sex.

  Also, more isn't always better. I've been in relationships where it's definately been the same thing over and over and over again. Mixing it up can help foster that intimacy.

  I think the pastor's point is, a lot of evangelicals (I happen to be one) get really uneasy about sex, and don't do it often or as kinky as they should. This leads to internet porn addiction, cheating, and all kinds of wayward stuff. If you're not tempted, you can't sin. If you shine a light on all aspects of your marriage, it's hard for the darkness to creep in. The Bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled, yet I still see Christians on message boards stating oral is an abomination. I disagree. I think as long as it's the two of you, you can live out whatever fantasies you want. That's the point!

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  Posted by Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:21pm PST

  I agree with the pastor.....sex brings about more intimacy

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  Posted by Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:23pm PST

  I agree with the pastor....sex brings about more intimacy

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  Posted by Mikedawg53 Tue Nov 25, 2008 2:28pm PST

  Right on key w/ this subject.

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  Posted by Beth Tue Nov 25, 2008 3:32pm PST

  No, of course not. The key to a successful marriage is being open and honest with each other when it comes to sex and having the level of sex the two of you need, not the level society tells you that you should be having. And be faithful, that helps. It's quality, not quantity.

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  Posted by Giggs 43 Tue Nov 25, 2008 3:57pm PST

  I agree sex keeps your partner interested. You have to be compatable in all aspects be open honest and truthful. It took me a lot of years to realize it!! there are times my spouse and I just hold each other and we both feel fulfilled we have a fabulous sex life we both enjoy each other its important to talk as well.

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  Posted by Power Writer Tue Nov 25, 2008 4:25pm PST

  Uh? yea.

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