Is His Height A Deal Breaker?

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  Posted by Aconite Fri Jul 10, 2009 1:42pm PDT

  I'm 5'10, and my boyfriend is 6'2. I'm not conditioned to believe tall is better, nor am I afraid a short guy is going to weigh less than me. I just know what I like, and I'm not a fan of short guys because with my height, it'd feel like I was with a little kid. Also, I don't think the average height for men is what you said, unless you live in Mexico or Japan. Of course, if my boyfriend suddenly shrank down to 5'4, I'd still date him because I love him. Personality counts way more than looks.

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  Posted by Aconite Fri Jul 10, 2009 2:00pm PDT

  As to what the Chris guy said... That's another thing about short guys. A lot of them, it seems, get angry at everything because they are insecure. I'm tired of hearing about how women will date you if you have money. Women can make their own freaking money! We don't need men to provide for us! I'm in college right now, so I can have a good job and be able to support myself. My boyfriend is in college too, and right now, we are really poor, and it doesn't even matter. We are still happy. Money isn't everything. And it's very hypocritical to say women that don't date short men are shallow, then you call tall girls "beastly". You are insecure and bitter, and you have a messed up view of women. Also, women can protect themselves. We don't need a big or small guy to do so.

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  Posted by Zom-B Fri Jul 10, 2009 5:34pm PDT

  Aconite, stop dating tall guys exclusively, stop being so judgemental, and stop lobbing insults like "insecure" and "messed up view of women"...THEN maybe men won't have issues.

  Realize what it's like for people who AREN'T you.

  And, BTW, STFU. You're the one with the issues. I'M the one who was angry. Chris was very diplomatic and plainspoken with his views. Get the f*ck over it and yourself.

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  Posted by Zom-B Fri Jul 10, 2009 5:37pm PDT

  AND, btw, women WILL be more willing to date you if you're a) tall and b) have lots of money. Because of shallowness and a spineless need to be "taken care of". Period. I have to call a spade a spade. Get over it. I can't apologize for telling the TRUTH.

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  Posted by Jose Fri Jul 10, 2009 6:01pm PDT

  Nothing wrong with having standards. I definitely wouldn't date any woman who weighed over 110 pounds.

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  Posted by Aconite Fri Jul 10, 2009 11:20pm PDT

  I'm not dating tall guys exclusively. I just said if my boyfriend was short, I'd still date him because I love him, and personality counts more than looks. His view of women is messed up as is yours if you think we are all out for your money. We do not need to be taken care of. I don't think you even read what I wrote. You are also insecure, and that's why you are angry, Zom B. It's not me, it's you. I hope you work out those issues. Being short isn't the end of the world. Don't worry about what other people think, and just be happy with yourself. And stop looking at women so negatively.

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  Posted by ann Sat Jul 11, 2009 8:28am PDT

  I'm tall for a woman and like to date men near my own height, but don't particularly like dating extremely tall men, over 6'2" e.g., or extremely short men. It's a personal preference, like all others, tho and whatever works for you. I just like feeling like an equal.

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  Posted by Erin Sat Jul 11, 2009 10:23pm PDT

  You know what? I'm 6 feet tall and female. My boyfriend is just over 5'10". At my height, I am taller than the vast majority of men, but even so, I will still wear my 3-inch heels every now and then, because I think it's fun to be able to see over everyone's heads across the room. I have only dated two guys who were taller than me, and one of them was only by about an inch. I learned to get over the height thing early on because most guys were shorter than me, meaning that there were also a larger proportion of nice guys who are shorter than who are taller. The height difference has become a bit of a joke between my boyfriend and I, mainly because every other girl he dated before me was significantly shorter than he is. It's fun, and we're totally crazy about each other. Some men might feel emasculated dating a woman who's taller, and likewise some women might fee de-feminized by dating a shorter man. But really, how much does "being a MAN" and "being a WOMAN" really matter? Just be yourself, and you'll be more likely to find someone who's worth your time anyway, even if the guy happens to be a few inches shorter.

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  Posted by Anacaly Thu Jul 23, 2009 1:13pm PDT

  I'm 5'0 and my boo is 6'1. I've dated guys a lot shorter then that. As long as he's not shorter than me then its kool. I am pretty short so I do not need someone 4'0 tall!! Yucky!!

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