Is 21 too young to get married?

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  Posted by Orien Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:37pm PDT

  If that's the case, don't they say that you always love your first sexual partner? Maybe they will have an even more special bond because all they will know is eachother. That's just another angle to look at it...

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  Posted by Ahleah G Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:44pm PDT

  I do think that 21 is too young to be getting married. I also agree with LISAL that sex is probably a factor in his decision.

  My first LTR started when I was 20. We were together 6 years, and the amount of change that a person goes through in their early 20s is too much for a lot of relationships. Most people just aren't ready to settle down for a lifetime committment at that age.

  That being said, it is their choice and I wish them a lot of luck.

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  Posted by Jonny Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:57pm PDT

  21 is still a child. If you want to try live down a child's decision the rest of your life, go ahead. Might as well set a date for the divorce while your at it.......

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  Posted by lubna Thu Jul 2, 2009 3:09pm PDT

  yes it's not anyone buisness!!....if they love each other,, why will they divorce??!! .. anyway goodluck for both of them.

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  Posted by Doktor Eevol Thu Jul 2, 2009 3:14pm PDT

  They've dated two years, they are legal adults. I'm sure for SOME people 21 is too young, but not everyone. Let them make their own choices and see what happens.

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  Posted by Nini Poo Thu Jul 2, 2009 3:44pm PDT

  I don't think we can judge on this topic. People mature at VERY different rates. I was married at 20, my husband 21. Eight years later, we are still happily married and that's not changing any time soon.

  The fact that 'sex may play a part in this'...I can't really comment on that. Role model or not, I think they'd have premarital sex if they really wanted to. It's bold to think they'd get married JUST to do the deed.

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  Posted by Big Rrrr...... Thu Jul 2, 2009 4:17pm PDT

  I have 2 kids and Im 21 years old. There is a 21 year old boy who is the father of one child. I Love him very much because I have a child by him. So I don't think thats 21 is a bad age to get married as long as they truly love each other than nothing can stop them. There has been talk about marriage with me but nothing has happened!!!

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  Posted by Carrie Thu Jul 2, 2009 4:55pm PDT

  Everyone matures at different rates and we shouldn't judge the situation and make a blanket statement about 21 being too young. If 21 is too young to get married, then maybe it is too young to drink, serve in the military, make a decision for oneself... People don't have to remain "children" for as long as society sometimes allows. That said, marriage should be a thoughtful choice because you found the person you want to be with and should not be rushed into, but also doesn't have to be delayed. I hope it works out for them, marriage is work and they have to work to grow together and not apart. And for the record... I was 19.5 and my hubby was 21 and 14 years later, life couldn't be better and we worked to make it that way! Loves to all!

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  Posted by ashley Thu Jul 2, 2009 5:08pm PDT

  I think if you are ready and she is ready to get marrid and then you should!

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  Posted by pwsgirl Thu Jul 2, 2009 5:59pm PDT

  I don't think he's too young. Everyone matures differently, and this young man really seems to have his act together. It's not like he is fresh out of high school, doesn't have a steady job, and has only known the girl for six months. As far as the promise ring, I say good for him. In my personal opinion, sex for many young people has become too much of a recreational deal instead of a loving act of intimacy between two people in a committed relationship. I think he should be commended for his wish to wait until he is married to give himself to a woman. There are still young people with old-fashioned values even in today's society, and they shouldn't be looked down upon for the way they feel and believe. Everyone is entitled to live their lives the way they desire in this respect without condemnation from others. Anyway, I wish Kevin Jonas and his fiance a long and happy marriage. As one poster acknowledged, most marriages that end in divorce do so not because of the age of either person, but because of something that happens between them, such as infidelity.

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