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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Aftermath of abuse: 5 reasons why Rihanna's new song is really freaking us out

The highly-anticipated new Rihanna song, "Russian Roulette" was released this week, and, man, is it ever creepy. To wit:

1. The image that sells the single is of Rihanna wrapped in (and perhaps hung up by) barbed wire. At the very least, this looks awfully masochistic. At worst, it's scary and violent. In either case, it's a space we'd really rather not see a domestic abuse victim occupying.

2. If you didn't gather this from the title, the song is about a woman willingly playing a game of Russian Roulette and wanting to pass a frightening, violent (and potentially fatal) test so some dude will love her. Hmm.

3. Then, there are the lyrics, which Rihanna didn't write, but she did approve. They include:
 "And you can see my heart beating
You can see it through my chest
And I'm terrified but I'm not leaving
Know that I must pass this test
So just pull the trigger."

The song ends with a gunshot.

4. Maybe this is wrong, but we'd hoped Rihanna's first comeback single after the Chris Brown nightmare (let's remember the man punched, choked, and BIT the singer) would be something, oh, we don't know...empowering...even uplifting. We'd wanted lyrics that at least nodded to the fact that this young woman was victimized and that totally sucked and was not OK. Perhaps a song about triumph, about overcoming pain and being better and stronger than twisted men, about survival. You know, something Rihanna's impressionable fans could look up to and admire. Instead, we get:  "So many won't get the chance to say goodbye. But it's too late to pick up the value of my life." Really? Is it too late to appreciate your life and consider that you have great worth? Oh, no, no, NO.

5. Last, and this is just a taste thing, but the song kind of sucks. It's boring, it's flabby, it sounds like it was made entirely on a computer by computer musicians playing computer instruments. You know it's a strange day when we agree with Perez Hilton, but, yes, as much as we love RiRi, we are awfully disappointed. Rihanna, you're better than every part of this! Meh.

Source: Perez

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  • Trish C's Avatar
    Posted by Trish C Wed Oct 21, 2009 6:19pm PDT

    i kind of like the song, and if she was still actually with chris brown then i would be concerned. but seeing as how she's moved on from that (AWFUL) relationship, i think this song is just an expression of a period in her life. i wouldn't be so harsh, especially if you didn't go through what she went through. maybe this song is a way for her to heal, to get it out of her head.

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  • E. Boost's Avatar
    Posted by E. Boost Wed Oct 21, 2009 6:26pm PDT

    I can kind of agree with this, but at the same time, I think it's good for her. She has been through a lot, and she still probably has a lot to deal with, not to mention a lot of rage and anger deep down. I haven't heard the song but it sounds good, emotional, dark and deep. I think her releasing this song/album is the perfect way for her to express herself and say "I'm getting through this, I feel angry". I would be more shocked and worried about her if she released a song about bunnies and being in love & acting like everything is normal. I like this edge about her, and this anger, it's true expression and that's what makes real music, not just writing lyrics out of nowhere. I also think the women who have gone through the same thing might relate to her. As for the cover album, I think most artists have photographers and shoot directors who offer their ideas (just like the lyrics) whether it was Rihannah's choice or someone else, I really like this. Can't wait to hear the songs.

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  • It is what it is's Avatar
    Posted by It is what it is Wed Oct 21, 2009 7:00pm PDT

    I haven't heard the song yet, but from the information on the post I think it's good in a way that Rihanna is showing the dark and angry side of how she was probably feeling during and after the situation. It could have been more uplifting, but that might not have been what she was honestly feeling at the time.

    Maybe her next single will be uplifting.

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  • Diann S's Avatar
    Posted by Diann S Wed Oct 21, 2009 7:08pm PDT

    Its totally ok for her to be ok with these lyrics, it was a place she had been in and she needed to get it out, what better way than a song. Besides we never even saw her being vulnerable until this song. even after the abuse we saw one pic and then she was out and about, and she hasnt even spoken about the incident ONCE!

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  • des's Avatar
    Posted by des Wed Oct 21, 2009 8:03pm PDT

    It's just a song. That she did not write. Other artist sing/rap things more bad and are liked. She's doing a good job, being different with her hair, wardrobe, etc... Different is good.

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  • God Loves Insanity's Avatar
    Posted by God Loves Insanity Wed Oct 21, 2009 8:09pm PDT

    Trying WAY too hard! It's almost Lady GaGa like of her with all that "Look at me! I'm shocking." crap.

    But at least our dear GaGa doesn't disappoint.

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  • mel's Avatar
    Posted by mel Wed Oct 21, 2009 8:12pm PDT

    shehas proven that she is somewhat less than intelligent. if this is what she wants, let her have it. i do not feel any sympathy for her anymore.

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  • Valentine Valerie's Avatar
    Posted by Valentine Valerie Wed Oct 21, 2009 8:24pm PDT

    This is really sad when I read the article. I decided to listen to the song on youtube and I was saddened by what I was hearing. I know a lot of little girls that look up to her and listen to her music and when they hear that song, what will go through their minds? A lot of women have been abused by their boyfriends or husbands physically or emotionally and giving up is never the way to go. When you go through something as bad as this it should make a person stronger not weaker.

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  • grits's Avatar
    Posted by grits Wed Oct 21, 2009 9:01pm PDT

    I believe she is young and ignorant of what a relationship should be between a man and a woman., There should be no violence, no intimidation, no proving your love to another through extreme means and certainly there should be mutal respect. I don't know what her parents' relationship was, but it makes me wonder if she has seen healthy relationships up close and in person. I have to wonder where her head is these days. If she is not in counseling, she needs to go. People always talk about the abuser needing help. The victim needs it as well. There are some kind of self-esteem issues that make one accept abuse and those need to be dealt with as well.

    From a strictly business standpoint, why didn't an agent/manager talk her out of this project, given her recent problems. And quite personally, I find any S&M like photo of a woman in any type of bondage to be offensive and degrading to women. It reinforces the stereotype of the woman being submissve. This is very disappointing to see from her.

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  • DavidV's Avatar
    Posted by DavidV Wed Oct 21, 2009 10:19pm PDT

    Actually, isn't it Jennifer making Rihanna out to be Chris Brown's property? She's an artist, but apparently she can't record and perform a song without getting approval for how it relates to her and Chris? And if Rihanna wants her image to be sexy or daring or dangerous, doesn't she get the freedom to choose and own her appearance and mannerisms?

    That isn't to say that everyone has to like her art and choices, but when did she sign up to have her public performances judged through the prism of her private life? She's a pop artist. If YOU want to make a song about her relationship with Brown and feel there's so much that desperately needs saying, do it yourself. Trying to shove words into her mouth and shame her into acting the way you want is another kind of victimization.

    Always watch those who claim to want women to be empowered. There's more than a few of them that bristle at the idea a woman is free to have her own choices, voice and image. Sounds pretty controlling and abusive to me.

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