Realizing you are the only person on Earth that loves your child.

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  Posted by AimeeM Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:13pm PDT

  I grew up in family much like your son is....with one exception-I wasn't ever sure that I was loved by my mother. Make sure he knows that and he'll be okay. And he will certainly be better off than I was. Love, blessing and prayers to you and your little boy!

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  Posted by William Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:14pm PDT

  (William's wife) You aren't invisible and don't let insensitive people undermine the life you are making for you and your son. Their lack of involvement is a reflection of them, not of you. Kudos and Congrats to your son on the play off game, that's something he should be proud of!!

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  Posted by lil mmama Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:32pm PDT

  Hang in there and be strong for him! He will grow up an equally strong person --- As long as he has your love, he will be perfectly fine!!! You two are a team and I am sure he feels that connection as you feel the connection to him as his mother - stay strong and ask for God for help as you need it. You/he will be just fine! Hugs! :)

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  Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:43pm PDT

  I have similar feelings about extended family with my kids, and my heart twitched as I read your post. I will say this, the only way to build a community for your child (and yourself - you need it just as much) is to stay in one long enough to do so. I wish you the best of luck and think your son is a very lucky boy to have your love.

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  Posted by chelsey Tue Oct 27, 2009 9:33pm PDT

  This was such a beautiful post... best of luck to you and your son.

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  Posted by teresa Tue Oct 27, 2009 9:36pm PDT

  I am living in this Country just with my two daughters, no familly whatsoever. I think u need to stay where u r living right now, for kids its traumatic to move from place to place, we've been here for nine years now and my daughters r happy....God bless u and your son, I am sure things will get better for the two of u...

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  Posted by wendy g Tue Oct 27, 2009 9:38pm PDT

  I got a little teary-eyed as I read this, because I feel exactly the same way. I'm married, and of course my husband loves his son very much, but other than that.....our parents act as if our child doesn't exist. Even when we visit, they ignore him. It occurs to me that when he gets older and his team wins a game or he gets a trophy, they're not going to care, either.

  So it's up to us to love our kids as much as we can.

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  Posted by New England Babe Wed Oct 28, 2009 5:03am PDT

  Sounds like they are disinterested because of their own lives. That is better than being hurtful.

  When I was pregnant with my son and in Tufts hospital trying to stay pregnant long enough to give him a chance at life my mother in law was telling everyone but us that she wished I would lose the baby because her son didn't need to be saddled with a sick kid. She wished her own grandchild dead!

  Since then she actually was proud to tell me that she stuck her finger in his little 8 month old face and told him to go ahead and f***ing cry because Mommy and Daddy aren't here to save you. She is not allowed to be alone with him and her behavior has never gotten any better and he just turned 5.

  I would prefer the disinterested family over the cruel one. Your son is free of abuse and that is something very important to his mental health and you are doing a great job with him.

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  Posted by Nadia Wed Oct 28, 2009 5:25am PDT

  I think the beautiful thing is, as he grows, his own light will shine that will be a magnet for people. I'm also a single mother with my family living in another country, my son is 20 months. I have this fear from time to time, but I remember that WE ARE A TEAM, and the love between us is what makes our life beautiful and all the good things that happen is because of US. That in itself is a gift, you know that already mama. And we're stronger for it!!

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  Posted by monalisa Wed Oct 28, 2009 5:40am PDT

  i wish you guys all the best...i agree with all the comments, all your son needs is your love and encouragement. i am a single mother of two beautiful girls and their dad is not involved in their lives at all. but they have grown up knowing that we are united...love does conquer it all...as he grows he will have questions, just assure him that he is special and loved by so many people...you can create your own family, with neighbours, friends...good luck

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