~Open or Closed Adoption?~

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  Posted by Kikki Wed Aug 26, 2009 7:29pm PDT

  It doesn't really matter. It's the child that's important. As long as you prepare the child for the chance that he/she may or may not find out their biological parents name. Though from a purely medical stand point it would be a good idea to have the biological family known to you, to ask in case of cancer or organ transplant, especially if there are genetic issues having to do with the child's ethnicity.

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  Posted by Izzy Wed Aug 26, 2009 8:11pm PDT

  That is a tough one. I guess it depends on what ever is best for the child in the situation at the time. A totally open adoption seems awkward and does not allow anyone to move on emotioally. A semi-open adoption may allow everyone involved to move on, but there should be some point where ties are cut. The child should always know that they are yours and that you love them unconditionally, however, they should know that they are adopted and they should know that you support whatever decision they would make in the future regarding connecting with the biological parent(s). Medical information is good to have regardless. Good luck. Adoption is a wonderful experience for everyone involved.

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  Posted by *devotion72 Thu Aug 27, 2009 11:19am PDT

  Speaking from being adopted...I always wanted to know who my birth parents were! I have had a hard time looking for them and through all the legal services I had to get; it's still hard till this day! A part of you wants to know who do you look like or what does my real family like? Why did they leave me or why didn't they want me?

  I really believe that if the child wants to know; then the child will ask when they are older. Don't hide it from them and most of all show them just as much love as you do your very own!

  I had many issues of that when I was younger! My parents/family had always told me that I wasn't real blood. So make sure you talk with the family to let them know when you do decide to adopt that no matter what they are apart of the family!

  If you ever have any other questions please feel free to ask anytime! Thank you; Devotion!

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  Posted by A Mon Aug 31, 2009 4:29pm PDT

  Wow Devotion... That's sad... My dad was adopted... and although he loved his family with all of his heart.. he did want to meet his biological family.. I grew up in a blended family and we were as close as any biological family could be.. I don't call my step siblings step... or my half brother half... They are my brothers and sisters... I'm caucation, so I also struggle with whether I should adopt inside my own race or not, or if it even matters... I know I could love him or her the same... I just want the child to feel just as much apart of the family as we would feel it was... It's a lot to think and pray about!

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