Parenting

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

How Far Does The Apple Fall? Seeing Your Worst Traits In Your Kids.

by Risa Green (Tales from the Mommy Track)
Remember when your parents used to say things to you like, someday, I hope you have a child that’s exactly like you? Well, I did. And one of the most difficult things about parenthood, for me, is having to put up with my own worst qualities on a daily basis. My son, while a sweet, warm, wonderful kid, somehow managed to inherit every single quality of mine that I have always regretted having. He’s overly cautious. He’s a homebody. He’s a stickler for routine, and uncomfortable in new situations. He doesn’t deal well with change. Fun stuff, especially in a four year-old.

I have often said that if I weren’t married to my husband, I would probably never leave the house. My husband is the one who keeps our social calendar, who makes plans with other couples, who chats on the phone with my girlfriends. If not for him, I would be a total hermit. It’s not that I don’t like going out – once I actually get somewhere, I tend to have fun – it’s just that it’s easier to stay home, and besides, I like being home. Which is okay, I think, for an adult. Because as an adult, I intellectually understand that I am just being lazy, and that if my husband is willing to make the plans, then I am willing to go along with them. But in a four year-old, this quality is not wonderful. In a four year-old, this is what happens when you try to go somewhere:

Me: Why don’t we get out of here and go somewhere? We could go to the zoo, or to the Natural History Museum, or the park…

My daughter: Yeah! I want to go to the zoo!

My son (not even looking up from playing with his Power Rangers): Nah.

Me: Come on, you can play with those any time. Let’s go somewhere.

My son: No, fank you. I just want to stay home.

It’s hard, because as a parent, I know that I should make him go out and do things. But as a person with similar inclinations, I totally get it.

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Risa Green, author of Tales from the Mommy Track on MommyTrackd.com, lives in Los Angeles. In the last four years, she has produced two children, called Harper and Davis, and two novels, called Notes from the Underbelly and Tales from the Crib. She is currently working on a third (novel not child).
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  • Super Abuelita's Avatar
    Posted by Super Abuelita Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:14pm PDT

    My oldest daughter is just the same as I was. She is an adult now, but we butted heads like crazy when she was younger(in her teens)!

    We now, have a very close relationship. She now understands why I said no to her, or had rules in the house, when she was young. Now she has a daughter that is just like her! LOL

    My youngest is like her father. STUBBORN! he he! The two of them cannot be in the same rom for very long, before her dad and her start acting STUBBORN, like the other one.

    They don't understand why I laugh! They have yet admitted to being SO MUCH ALIKE! I find it funny!

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  • Michelle's Avatar
    Posted by Michelle Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:02am PDT

    My son and I drive my husband absolutely NUTS!!! My son is just like me.... Right down to the ADHD.... My husband was a very quiet child. Almost never in trouble. My son is always in trouble for one thing or another.... I watch him because he is developing his sneaky side... (also inherited from me) I am not incredibly concerned, because he is also careful, but my husband really likes to tell me how my son and I are just alike. I am enjoying it. At least my son is a boy so I don't have the girly concerns... I just wouldn't know how to deal with that!!!

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  • Jonny's Avatar
    Posted by Jonny Fri Jul 3, 2009 8:52am PDT

    Tally, was your mom illiterate?

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  • Ms. Priss's Avatar
    Posted by Ms. Priss Fri Jul 3, 2009 2:17pm PDT

    i use too tell one of my girls,she would get 10x the blues she gave us.and guess what the universe was watching, now i am amazed at her being not the only river called "DE-NILE.Go figuire!

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  • Ms. Priss's Avatar
    Posted by Ms. Priss Fri Jul 3, 2009 2:22pm PDT

    i use too tell one of my girls,she would get 10x the blues she gave us.and guess what the universe was watching, now i am amazed at her being not the only river called "DE-NILE.Go figuire!And i gave my mom the best of it.So i know from which i speak.Be good to ur kids you never know who or what they will grow up to B.

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  • cynthiac's Avatar
    Posted by cynthiac Fri Jul 3, 2009 3:49pm PDT

    Someday you will have a kid just like you. My idols were Evel Kneival and Sophie Tucker.Help me

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  • Deanne's Avatar
    Posted by Deanne Fri Jul 3, 2009 4:31pm PDT

    My daughter is JUST LIKE ME.........

    Would I change it? HECK NO.......I love her anyway...

    Already have the second phone line in place, and the shotgun handy...

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  • ahmed's Avatar
    Posted by ahmed Sat Jul 4, 2009 2:16am PDT

    hi

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  • MS's Avatar
    Posted by MS Sat Jul 4, 2009 12:06pm PDT

    It definitely doesn't far fall from the tree in our family. My daughter is a clone of her father. Looks like him, acts like him, has most of the same interests as him. She got nothing from me other than a ride haha. However, I do see a few qualities of myself in her, but for the most part, she's a female version of her daddy.

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  • Rachal's Avatar
    Posted by Rachal Sat Jul 4, 2009 3:24pm PDT

    My son has got the best of both his father and me, and also the worst traits. Its like a double wammi! He's alredy stuborn(me), has to have his way or he throws a fit(dad),and the worst part of it all he's not even two yet!! So I will be practicing my patience and my sterness generously for the coming years.

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