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Monday, November 30, 2009

Help! My G-rated Kids Want to See PG-13 Transformers

This is the kind of situation that really puts parents in a bind. Young kids love playing with Transformers 

toys, but the movie wasn't made for young kids. It's a real PG-13, full of violence and more. Take a look at our suggestions about what to say to your kids.

It doesn't help that all of the merchandising is aimed at young kids, too. Movie-related toys and deals with Burger King kids' meals and M&Ms are all part of the marketing campaign, so it's no wonder your younger kids are clamoring to see it.

So what do you do when there's age-inappropriate marketing surrounding something that's not for kids?

Remember the old saw: "If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it, too?" The fact is that rules are different for every family. A movie like Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen is full of violence, and the more violence young kids see, the more desensitized they become. Younger kids aren't developmentally mature enough to handle it -- even if they think they are.

Talk to your kids about the concept of age-inappropriate marketing. Ask them why they think that the movie received a PG-13 rating and yet the toys, food, and other ads are clearly directed at younger kids. Do your kids think this is fair? Raising media-savvy kids gives them the advantage of viewing marketing efforts skeptically. And while it may not make them happy about your decision, some kids really resent being manipulated by advertising.

You also have to be practical. If you don't go to see the movie on Friday night, you'll have a few hours to kill, so you might as well make the best of it. Here are some of our most successful tips for avoiding age-inappropriate movies:

Family movie night. Have your kids choose an age-appropriate flick, get into your pajamas, pop popcorn, and snuggle.

Mini-golf, anyone? Do something your kids are always bugging you to do but you never get around to.

Host a game night! Invite friends over and play all the old favorites: Apples to Apples, Monopoly, and Scrabble are all fun family faves.

Plan a fun distraction. Cook something, plant something, manipulate photos with photo-editing software, or visit freerice.com and compete with your kids for correct answers to the site's quizzes.

For more reviews and parent tips, check out CommonSenseMedia.org

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  • Patrick's Avatar
    Posted by Patrick Sun Jul 5, 2009 10:29pm PDT

    If the child is too young to "handle" the violence, I'm pretty sure they are too young to understand the concept of age-inappropriate marketing. Honestly, this is not a PG-13 movie that I would be wary of letting my kid see. True, I am 15 and do not have any kids. And i think the whole "violence has a negative effect on kids, no doubt about it" idea is flawed. Every child reacts differently to violence. Some are scared, some enjoy it, some hate it, etc. I watched loads of "violent" movies when I was a kid ranging from Saving Private Ryan to Die Hard. And it's not because my parents made a bad decision in the situation, instead they felt I was mature enough to watcht those movies. So my main point is judge your child's case as an individual case. Then make the decision. And if you are wondering, I turned out fine. Straight A's, never been in any trouble, mentally sane, all that jazz. So I'm living proof violence doesn't always have a negative effect on kids.

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  • Johnell's Avatar
    Posted by Johnell Sat Jul 11, 2009 3:34am PDT

    Well after finally seeing this movie I can definelty say this is not a movie to take a child between the ages of 5-maybe 11 years old. i mean they used cuss words like a$$hole, Bi@ch, MotherF%$&KER etc.... and all those words coupled with violence was not some young child should have been watching, but while in the movie theater I noticed a lot of parents bringing their children to watch the movie. children ranging from the age of probably 6-10 years old heck the kid sitting next to me looked like he was 5 years old!! So I say to the parents whose kids are playing in the yard or at the park and you all of a sudden you hear them say stop acting like a p---- or that ----- is a Bi@ch please don't try and discipline them just turn around and slap yourself in the face!!! In today's society we wonder why our children say or do the things they do.....

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    Posted by Sun Sep 13, 2009 5:17am PDT

    I wish my kids never heard of transformers, especially my 5 year old. He wouldn't know about them if it weren't for my neighbour's two kids aged 5 & 7. Their teenager took the youngest ones to see Trans2 and invited my son to go along. I said no thank you! He has only seen the animated version and the toys thru my neighbour and all it is all he talks about...destroying and killing and decepticons and autobots and it drives me insane. I have pretty much put a ban on Transformers in my home now, I had to for all our sanity. He turns his other toys into transformers now. I dont even want him to play with the kids next door anymore becasue all they do is play these violent games, transformers on the DVD, transformers on the Wii or whatever. The parents allow them to watch very violent films like batman and ironman and others. It bothers me tremendously, I pretty much have to supervise their play together 100% of the time. What do I do? How do I parent my kids responsibly when the parents right next door don't, without completely forbidding them to play together??? I am going insane. I know, I have the moral and intellectual high ground...but what do 5 year olds know about that???? Thanks for letting me vent about these horrible TRANSFORMERS!!!!!!!!

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