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Monday, November 30, 2009

Crabmommy: Do you call your child by their real name or their many, many nicknames?

Little Potato. Tiny Tomato. Big Tiny. Baby Lady. Littles. Litty. Tines. Teeny-Weeny. Ween. Neen. Bean. Cuddlebunny. Budgie. Budgit. Littleton. Peedles. Sweetieluffs. Luffy. Coconut...

You get it. The above is just the beginning of a list of nicknames Crabhub and I have for Crabkid. And these don't even include the many that riff on her actual name. Which is Adolfa! (Kidding!)

Nicknaming: some do it to death, others don't seem to do it at all. The innumerable ridiculous and sentimental names I have for Crabkid are very much within my family tradition, especially on my mother's side. In my entire life I hardly recall a moment of being referred to by my real name by anyone in my extended clan. These nicknames reached absurd proportions when it came to my uncle, who called me Norman, and my stepfather, who called me Mitch for most of my life, never mind that neither Norman nor Mitch has any connection with my name whatsoever.

I never minded all those screwy monikers and now I find myself similarly gifted at mangling my daughter's pretty name, choosing endless variations on standard terms of endearment, as well as inventing my own nonsensical and slightly embarrassing creations, which evolve into other creations over time. All of which makes me wonder: what is it that drives some of us to go bananas on the nicknames whereas other people stay sensible and sane in the act of calling a loved one?

The Name Game: One woman's focused and relentless 40-week quest for the absolutely perfect and unique name.

Take my husband's family. They don't do this at all. Even in the most conventional sense. My husband's name is Michael and that is what he is called by everyone in his family. Not even one Mike comes his way.  His sister's name is Susan and she is similarly referred to by her full name. Nobody in their family spews out a Mike or Sue much less a Budgie, a Coconut, a Tater, a Toops, a Snoops, a Tilly, a Roly, or—for crying out loud!—a totally random Norman! But in my fam a Keeks is just as ordinary as a Tine, which is itself just as standard as a Meems.

Crabhubby has caught on to the nickname thing and himself is pretty good at coming up with new ones for the tot. But I'm the queen of the loopiest and goopiest contortions. Sometimes even I cringe when I hear some of the cutesy concoctions that roll off my tongue when I call my daughter. But I can't help it! She's my little Preshy after all. My Treasure, my Treshy (how can I even spell that?). She's my Special, my Speshy, my Only, Owny, Owny-Love. Ownzy. I don't know what it is, but something about seeing that scrumptious crumpet of delight makes me verbally spastic! Some kind of mother-love mania, maybe?

Or maybe I'm just silly. Either way I can't help it, people. And sometimes these oddities roll off my tongue in the presence of strangers. And they slowly back away from me. As well they should.

Whatever the reason behind my naming insanity, it's funny to think of how long I sweated over choosing the most beautiful name I could think of for my baby when in fact I hardly ever say it. Except when she's in trouble. Which, come to think of it, is often. :)

What about you? Are you nickname types? If so, are you hardcore inventors of random wackiness or do you go a more conventional route? 

Related: From Bronx Mowgli to Stormy, get the latest in trendy baby monikers.

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  • Jessica's Avatar
    Posted by Jessica Wed Jan 7, 2009 11:22am PST

    I have 2 daughters my oldest is 6 and her name is Kayla and I call her naynay..i dont know why or where i got that. I have been calling her that since she was a baby and Im the only one she will answer to when called that name.

    My other daughter is 15mths and her name is Meadow and I call her muffin. There isnt a reason for that one either lol

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  • Jenn's Avatar
    Posted by Jenn Wed Jan 7, 2009 11:30am PST

    I'm with you on the nicknames - when my daughter was a baby I called her Baby Butt. Now that she's 5 and a half any and all references to the word "baby" are strictly prohibited, but she'll delightfully answer to Butt. My husband, who is her step dad and wasn't even around for the Baby Butt name, also calls her Butt. Matter of fact, he calls me Butt too...maybe the nickname thing is contagious....

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  • Graphix Grrl's Avatar
    Posted by Graphix Grrl Wed Jan 7, 2009 11:32am PST

    My daughter is 5 and I call her Sugar Puff. I don't know why I started doing that either. lol

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  • rockin' mom's Avatar
    Posted by rockin' mom Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:03pm PST

    Punkin. Baby doll. Princess. Sweetie Pie. I'm guilty!!!

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:14pm PST

    I use a couple of different cute baby nicknames for my baby. In fact, I use nicknames so much I'm beginning to think she won't figure out what her name really is. I really should use her real name more when addressing her! My husband's family is the same as yours, no nicknames or shortened versions of names. No Mike, Sue, Pete, Harry, or Joey. I find that strange, as it feels so formal to address people as Michael or Joseph or Harold. But I will try to refrain from using embarrassing baby nicknames for my kid once she is older and especially in front of her peers!

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  • Jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:26pm PST

    A while ago my father in law called me with a funny story, about how he was talking about his grandaughter to a fellow employee, and couldnt remember her "real" name for the life of him. More poor child has so many names that i laughed out loud. Mackenzie is called everything but; including Lovey, Mackey, Mac-a-doodle, Mac and cheese, Mac, Kenzie, Kenz, Macs, Big Mac, Little Mac, Mackie poo... and I could go on. This story totally hits home for me!

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  • wendy g's Avatar
    Posted by wendy g Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:27pm PST

    Me, too. Monkey, Monkey Butt (any number of derivations of "monkey") lil' man, Stinky...and Spot, 'cause he was nothing but a little spot on the ultrasound photo the first time we saw him.

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  • Adi'sMommy's Avatar
    Posted by Adi'sMommy Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:36pm PST

    I call my daughter "Lil Muffin", or Adi which is the normal shortened version of her full name. My sister calls her Adi Crabby Patty, we watch too much Spongebob back in the day apparently, and my mom calls her Pooper.

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  • PrettyMrs.P's Avatar
    Posted by PrettyMrs.P Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:38pm PST

    My son's nickname is "Boogie" he was called that before he was born, whenever I went for ultrasounds it looked as though he was dancing on the screen! Also when music was played he would boogie on down lol. We picked the perfect nick name for him beacuse he still loves to dance even now at 17 months. I hope he knows waht his real name is I do call him by his full name especially when he is being sneaky!

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  • Miss V's Avatar
    Posted by Miss V Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:53pm PST

    We rarely call my son by his real name. He is usually called his many nicknames. But the main one is Moo-Moo

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