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Friday, July 3, 2009

Who is the real slacker: A working parent or a working non-parent?

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By: Vera Babayeva from Women Can Have It All!

Reading Avi Spivack’s post on WorkItMom got me thinking about who is the real slacker, a working parent or a working non-parent?

I am 26 and worked in Corporate America for 5 years. If there is anything I learned, it is that a slacker is a slacker by nature not based on parenting status.

This post is intended for people in management. I want you to understand the difference between the way a parent and a non-parent works.

The parent has this amazing ability to get more done in less time. Because they know that they have somewhere else to be later.

For example, when I took night classes in college, I was single and childless. The students who were also parents always handed in their work on time or maybe even early. I was the one always asking for an extension because I had all the time to do what I want at any time of the day, so I slacked off more. I was not rushing to get things done.

Now in Corporate America the same concept applies. The employees who are parents work during actual work hours because they have to leave to go to another “job” at home.

The non-parents have all the time they need, to do what they have to do, at any time of the day. During work hours, they may chat, walk around, and then after work hours start working. They are not rushing anywhere. Therefore, they end up looking good because they stay late.

I suggest that management start paying more attention to people’s work habits. What are they doing in the morning, afternoon? Are they working or chatting?

I wrote an article about how my time and money management habits changed after having kids and that will really demonstrate further how we parents suddenly learn to do more in less time because we waste no time at all. We do not have time to slack off. We do not even know how to do that.

Next time you want to label a parent as a slacker because they leave work on time or some days they leave early to take their kids to the doctor, do not. Stop. Think and observe the parents’ working habits. Then compare it to non-parents and you will understand how efficient and productive we really are.

We offer what Corporate America really wants, increased productivity, less overhead; hello!?

I welcome your thoughts…
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  • Rowdygirl's Avatar
    Posted by Rowdygirl Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:12am PDT

    This is just another post about parents being superior to non-parents. What about all the special considerations that parents are alloted because of their kids, that the child-free don't receive? "I have to come in late, since school was canceled".. "I need to leave early to take Jr to the doctor/band camp/school play, etc.etc." I have never had the luxury of using children as an excuse to get out of work or ask for special treatment. I get my work done and am in no way a slacker. I think your "theory" is BS.

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  • MistressMinx's Avatar
    Posted by MistressMinx Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:35am PDT

    Yes, this is so true.

    As to Rowdygirl - yes, I may come in late, leave early on occassion, etc. But, its not as if I'm doing less work. If I have to leave early, I come in late. I also take work home. I work on the weekends too. While I'm sitting there watching my kid's softball game, I'm also preparing spreadsheets and drafting documents. So, when you're at the bar, partying with all your friends, I'm at home working so that I don't fall behind.

    I don't think all non-parents are slackers, but some are.

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  • ambi's Avatar
    Posted by ambi Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:49am PDT

    Would you all stop being so Sterotypical.

    What is up with all the non-parent bashing and Vise versa?

    Why does it matter to me who pops out babies or not? Just get your work done like everyone else, and no one cares!

    And MistressMinx, Sense when does not having children mean partying at the bar all day and night! Please! I work my ass off every day and night and not having children was the Choice I made. Sounds to me like your bitter, and lusting for your old partying days!

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  • MistressMinx's Avatar
    Posted by MistressMinx Mon Aug 11, 2008 9:37am PDT

    ambi - definitely not bitter and not lusting after old partying days. Having children is wonderful and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm very happy. And, just an FYI, it would be since, not sense.

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  • Lucy's Avatar
    Posted by Lucy Mon Aug 11, 2008 1:50pm PDT

    A Slacker is a slacker no matter if they're parents or not. Employers don't even look at the load you do all they care about is what time you coming in and leaving and if you stay late. That's with Mother's or Non-Mothers. Who cares if things get done just get there on time and leave when you're supposed to. If you stay late even better! they may give you a raise. Stay after hrs and surf the web.. they don't care. Corporate is all BS.

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  • Cursed Romantic's Avatar
    Posted by Cursed Romantic Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:20pm PDT

    Hmm, I do agree a slacker will be a slacker regardless of their status. But at the same time, I do tend to think most parents get more work done and most people without kids get more work done as well. I have seen parents at my last college usually have their stuff in on time before myself or other students with or without kids. I actually had a lot of respect for them. And I don't think every parent makes it an excuse to take their kid to a doctor's appointment. Because if anyone has any experience with trying to get an appointment for the doctor's office period, rather you are young or older, knows its hard thing to do and you get the appointment when you can. I just think the bosses need to be thankful everyone is getting their work done period.

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  • Kate's Avatar
    Posted by Kate Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:18am PDT

    I'm an attorney who also works in the political arena. I do not have kids nor is that something that I desire.

    That does not make you better than me or vice versa. In NY, we don't work late because we have nothing better to do. There is always something better to do. We work because there's work to be done. After work, I volunteer a couple days a week, go out with friends, go to the gym, etc. And I am confident that I am as good (probably better) than most working parents with time/money management and efficiency.

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    Posted by Lisa Beller Tue Aug 12, 2008 7:45am PDT

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  • Denise's Avatar
    Posted by Denise Tue Aug 12, 2008 8:01am PDT

    I have been both a working Mom and a stay-at-home Mom of 3 kids. Life either way is difficult, there is no room for any slacking.

    I choose to stay home. I am very fortunate that my husband can provide for us with one income. As a stay-at-home Mom my time has to be managed very carefully so I can properly care for my children, husband, and home. If I slack off, one of them suffers for it. I would never have that.

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  • Ashley W's Avatar
    Posted by Ashley W Tue Aug 12, 2008 8:56am PDT

    I don't think that having kids has a lot to do with it. People are either slackers by nature or they tend to be lazy. I worked hard before I had kids and I continue to to do so after. With others, its the exact opposite.

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