A WWE Diva leaves a career for marriage: Do women really still do this?

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  Posted by Katie B Tue Sep 22, 2009 11:20am PDT

  I would if I could... But mostly because I find work boring and mundane... I hate the cubicle life and right now there is nothing flexible for me in my field... I think we as women have many ideals of what being the perfect wife would/should be... If this is what she wants to do than good for her. The things that I think would effect her the most is the lack of outside contact (unless she will still have dates with her girlfriends and such) and getting out of the workforce so she doesn't have (m)any skills anymore to get back into it. But again if that is what she wants to do than good for her... who are we to judge?

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  Posted by Trish C Tue Sep 22, 2009 11:21am PDT

  i think the future of a woman's career can be determined by that woman and that woman alone. i don't look down upon or judge any woman who leaves her career to pursue a different path. and that's exactly what marriage and family life is - just a different path from the one she was on. if financial stability wasn't an issue in my (hypothetical) marriage, i would absolutely consider being a stay at home mom and wife. and for those women who do juggle motherhood, married life, and a career, i give them a lot of credit as well. i think life is what you make of it, and if lillian garcia wants to give up her career in pursuit of being happily married, more power to her.

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  Posted by Rowdygirl Tue Sep 22, 2009 11:59am PDT

  If we're going to advocate that women deserve to have a choice, then you have to accept whatever that choice may be; even if being a wife and\or mom is what she chooses. Not every woman longs for a career or life in the pressure cooker working world.

  You can't say "give us the right to choose" and then tell her that the choice she is making is wrong or somehow beneath her. No girl should ever have to grow up believing that being her own woman, what ever that means to her, is wrong.

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  Posted by Doktor Eevol Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:00pm PDT

  This is a matter of personal choice - for either men or women. Garcia had a lucrative career for ten years, and that long to move her money around in the right places to be financially set for the rest of her life. She had developed a name for herself, and probably be able to re-enter her field if she wants to.

  For a working or middle class person, though, this would be a different story. It's a whole other ball game when you don't have anything financial to fall back on if the marriage doesn't work out, or if the industry decides it doesn't want you back. Obviously, not everyone can afford financially or otherwise to give up their livelihood for their spouse, nor should they be expected to out of some vague social obligation.

  This is only a political issue if it's made out to be one. Nobody asks questions when a man sacrifices his job to stay at home with the kids, and nobody makes an issue when a man gives up a demanding career to make time for a new marriage. So, these choices are situational and personal, not gender based. I would be happy if people would recognize that instead of putting someone else's choices on trial.

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  Posted by Someoneelse Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:02pm PDT

  If we could afford to live comfortably on my future husband's salary alone, I would absolutely quit working to stay home and take care of our home and future children, but not because that's what society thinks I should do, because it's what I want to do. I think that the women's liberation movement has forgotten the core of their beliefs; that it is about the freedom of choice.

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  Posted by Iamhome Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:29pm PDT

  It goes to show you that ambition and what this world has to offer is garbage. What is more important is peace and joy in life. None of which, this world offers us. Being at home you can enjoy life and move at your own pace and not the pace of a clock. If I could financially afford to do it while married, heck if I could while I'm single, I would. I think when you get married, you find that your heart changes and turns towards the other person and not yourself, therefore, that desire to take care of the home and spouse. Makes life easier on everyone.

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  Posted by yaya Tue Sep 22, 2009 1:10pm PDT

  Well financially speaking it's not a good idea to do this. I would prefer to keep making my own money. I dont think homemaking is MY calling, but its definitely a private decision and every woman must make her chioce sooner or later.

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  Posted by classicalmuzclovr Tue Sep 22, 2009 1:58pm PDT

  I think it's her life, and her choice.

  I liked Katie and Dok's posts the most.

  I am a stay at home Mom. I've worked outside the home, since I was 16, on and off.

  I worked while married, up until my daughter was born, she was my first, and I decide to stay home. I was fortunate to be able to do so.

  I got divorced, and worked again, full time, while going to college, and raising my daughter.

  When I remarried, my hubby and I both decided that if we had a baby I'd stay home again. It's what we wanted. We sacrifice a bit to make it happen, but it's so worth it to me.

  But, that doesn't mean it's for everyone. To each her/his own...

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  Posted by Crazy Horse Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:15pm PDT

  It's a matter of personal choice. Some women do still live in the days when their husband ruled over them. Lillian may come from a background where men control EVERYTHING. I would NEVER abandon my own hopes, dreams and career to be with anyone. That's stupid. Why put your dreams on the backburner. Women like this have nowhere to go once a man leaves them. A smart woman will always have her own and certainly not rely on a man to provide all things. This is pathetic. I understand being in love, married, whatever. But, you should never abandon you to make a man happy. And no loving man would ask a woman to give up her career.

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  Posted by classicalmuzclovr Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:31pm PDT

  Crazy horse...

  Staying at home, does not mean a woman thinks her husband "rules over her"... .

  I have news for you. The complete opposite is true. That is a foolish, and stupid assumption to make. Just because a woman stays at home, with her kids, or even without, doesn't mean she is being controlled. Again, what a silly assumption to make, and a rude one at that.

  What makes you think that a woman who stays home, can't still work if she needs to? What makes you think we're not educated?

  What makes you think we are going nowhere?

  You sound positively primeval...

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