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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

RED DAY!: What do you NOT do when you have your period?

Because I was a certified lifeguard in high school, I got a free pass out of three years of Phys Ed. It seemed like a rare miracle of teenage years and every single time I saw crowds of girls in baggy green school sweats huffing and puffing around the track, I thanked my CPR stars.

Every time there I heard a class reluctantly square dancing in a gym or heard the clank of weights in the nautilus room, I took a deep breath and inhaled the sweet relief of chlorine from the 9 foot pool where I stood guard.

In exchange for struggling through P.E., I dutifully taught and watched over freshman swimming classes, required of every new student for nine long weeks of their first year. The pool room where students, at one time all boys, once swam naked, became the place where young men and women congregated in bleachers and then were divided into groups according to skill. But even in the early 90s, twenty years after females filled the halls, some of those swimming practices were clinging to some strange era from the way-past.

Part of my job was to take attendance while the students sat shivering in swimsuits, caps and inadequate towels. I did as I was instructed, calling out their names one by one, and they did as the P.E. teacher yelled at them to do: Respond "Here!," "Sick!," or "Red Day!"

Take a moment to ponder the choices.

Yes, Red Day is what you think it is. Fourteen-year old girls, already made to sit on cold metal bleachers in their swimsuits and horrible baldifying caps, had to yell out to the entire, echoey room full of boys and men and each other if they were choosing to skip swimming because of their period.

Each and every time I heard it over three years, I was horrified. Not because young women were menstruating, but because the attendance ritual was so archaic, disrespecting of privacy at such a tender age and so bizarre. Strangely, many girls seemed to be on the rag for nine weeks straight (although, even more bizarre, the Red Day allowance changed in my third year so you could only take a certain number of days during the swimming class). And just as strange to me was that, then and there in the age of synthesizer pop and assymetrical hair-dos, some girls were opting out of activities because of their periods.

What?! Didn't everyone just use a tampon and go about their daily business? Didn't we all just pop a Midol or six and get on with our cramps and complaining? Wouldn't this whole Red Day horror be solved by not wearing white and tucking a purse into your backpack? I was so confused.

"RED DAY!," the girls would call out and it felt like the 1950s in there, minus the naked boys but plus the period weirdness. "RED DAY! RED DAY again!"

I thought about that (and oh God, the red slash I had to Sharpie into the box next to the names of the girls from That Period) when I came across this user post asking if other readers stop working out during their cycle. She encourages us to keep exercising in order to feel better and less ugh, but it made me wonder how many of those girls in the bleachers grew up to be women who still opt out once a month.

Do women really stop everything once their periods start?

I'm not judging here. Some of us suffer from terrible, debilitating periods that turn us back around and plunk us in bed and miserable for days. Others of us need more sleep, time alone, meditation, hot baths just to get through the ugh-ness. And those of us who yoga know that many instructors suggest that certain positions (like inversions) aren't philosophically or physically beneficial when we have our periods. Clearly, there are valid reasons and we've all had at least a bit of them when we've bled.

But really, do most of us most months need to sit out activity, exercise or other opportunities to dive into our lives when we have our periods?

What about you? What do you yell "RED DAY!" at when you have your period?

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  • Wifey's Avatar
    Posted by Wifey Mon Aug 11, 2008 9:00pm PDT

    I'm usually fine on my "Red Day's"...Sometimes I'll get mild cramps 1 day out of the 7, but other than that I'm good...I just hate it when I start right before I'm about to go on vacation or during the vacation!

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  • badgerdog's Avatar
    Posted by badgerdog Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:26pm PDT

    I have long, heavy periods. They usually last 6 to 7 days. I don't have much pain during them, and I continue working out and swimming during that time, EXCEPT on the third day. Day three is my Red Day. It is consistently the heaviest day of my period and the day when the exhaustion and "ugh-ness" really wears me out. On the third day of my period (only one day a month) is when I just let everything go and sit in the tub (or on the couch) and eat some dark chocolate M&Ms and watch a movie! But I try to take care of myself during that time so that I won't lose momentum and can keep up with my activities all the other days of that "red" time.

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  • Amber M's Avatar
    Posted by Amber M Mon Aug 11, 2008 11:31pm PDT

    I have terribly cystic ovaries, which basically means I am regularly irregular so when I do get my period (about every 3 months), it seems like its the 2nd day that is the worst of them all, when it comes to the sheer heaviness of the period. The pain is UNBEARABLE about three days before and lasting a week after. Its just the joys of my ovaries and the cysts they produce. I used to never exercise, but I now force myself to exercise through the pain, which at least helps my mood a whole lot better. Usually by the time I work out in the evening, the majority of my pain is bad (it always hits me worse in the mornings).

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  • Vicks's Avatar
    Posted by Vicks Mon Aug 11, 2008 11:34pm PDT

    Dear Ms. Ashley,

    Horrible system, really, it is! I would never attempt to swim with a period, and they definitely should have accounted for a more private and personal way to opt out of swim class. But I hate having a period curtail other exercise. For the most part, I walk. Walking don't bother nothing! I DO remember doing yoga, but I am too heavy for stressful inversion poses at this point, anyway. This is what I wanted to comment about also: Interesting that you said some gals had their periods for "nine weeks straight." That makes me want to share that, coming through a school system that had absorbed a lot of Middle-Eastern ethnicities, it seems that I learned that these girls were not allowed to swim with the males. Period or no period. I'm not sure 100%, as it has been a long time since high school and mandatory P.E., but with there being so many restrictions due to having Muslim religious cultures, it would not surprise me!

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  • Da Evil One's Avatar
    Posted by Da Evil One Tue Aug 12, 2008 12:16am PDT

    My RED DAY are not that bad!

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  • BG's Avatar
    Posted by BG Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:13am PDT

    My "Red Day" is not bad at all. Never had cramps or overbleeding. My problem however is before the red day. My breast swell up to the point i cry and im so evil i think i could chew the whole world up and spit it out without a thought!

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  • dragonflyyy's Avatar
    Posted by dragonflyyy Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:20am PDT

    OMG! Today is like totally a RED DAY! Okay I dont really talk like that but it IS a RED DAY. So I have tried to make peace with my period for some time. And for the most part I really enjoy the ME Time of it. But I do get all super tired and sometimes my cramps are so bad I puke- about every other cycle lately. So yeh my period can be a b---- ! So I get to do whatever I want. Eat what I want (brownies, In and Out), do whatever is necessary to deal with the pain, sleep all I want. Dont have to exercise or really stress about anything because my period is bad enough. I used to wear this beautiful loose fitting goddess skirt every time I got my period. It was comfy and pretty and gave me something to look forward too because I only wore it when menstrating. Anyway my period basically sucks my ass and the suffering is no joke- though it is definitely uncomfortable to admit to male co workers and bosses. "Im having a RED DAY boss, cut me some freaking slack or I will slice you!" Doesnt go over so well. Stupid men!

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  • Rachael's Avatar
    Posted by Rachael Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:44am PDT

    I used to be one of those RED DAY sit out people. I would get cramps that were so bad that I would feel sick and some times throw up. But worse than that were the body aches, particularly my knees and joints would hurt. And putting pressure on them just made it worse. So the first three days of my period were days that I was pretty much lucky if I made it out of bed.

    Thank goodness for the Birth Control Pill. Now I have a RED DAY and just hit the floor running.

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  • Nik's Avatar
    Posted by Nik Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:48am PDT

    My only RED DAY that I won't exercise, is the second day of my period. My flow is so heavy that day that at times I have literally bled through two pads (I can't use tampons - TSS symptoms every time), my underwear, my "period" shorts, AND my pants. Within 3 hours. It's not worth the embarrassment and hassle. Luckily it's the only day that happens. The other days are medium to light flow. And I have no problem exercising on them.

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  • Laura's Avatar
    Posted by Laura Tue Aug 12, 2008 5:23am PDT

    When I was in high school I took one Red Day every month. In an adult leadership class in my 30s, when we went on our education day, one school official had the attendance records of some of us and announced to the bus that L___ P___missed an average of one day a month! Yep, just yell RED DAY! Now, its no problem. I think my ovaries have dried up. I just don't always feel comfortable doing the whole 'ground and pound' in my martial arts class. Rolling around, with a co-ed class mate is just not always pleasant!

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